Do You Show Respect to others?
Two of the Oxford Dictionary meanings for the word ‘Respect’ are:
- Due regard for the feelings, rights, and wishes of others.
- A feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievement.
This reminds me of the popular, inspirational verse, “…do unto others as you would have them do to you.”
How would you like others to treat you – how would you like them to speak to you, and about you?
There are 3 kinds of Respect:
- Respect for others
- Respect for other peoples’ property or belongings
Respect should be shown in the following areas:
- Show respect for yourself –
If you don’t respect yourself how can you respect others?
How do you show respect for yourself?
You show respect for yourself when you don’t do things which would hurt you physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually. Things like: Consuming drugs, not taking enough sleep, feeding on the wrong foods…doing things which could hurt your body, self-esteem, thinking and good beliefs.
- Respect your elders –
According to http://freedictionary.com the meaning of the word ‘elder is:
- An older person.
- An older, influential member of a family, tribe, or community.
- One of the governing officers of a church, often having pastoral or teaching functions.
Do you show respect for your parents or guardians – The elders you live with? Or do you flagrantly disobey them, give them backchat, show them disrespectful facial or hand gestures, or even worse hit them?
God has placed parents in your life to provide for you, to guide you, to teach you right from wrong, to help you gain life-skills and adopt essential values. If you disrespect them, you are disrespecting a much higher authority: God. And violating a major commandment, “Honour your father and your mother, so that you may live long in the land the LORD your God is giving you.”
Exodus 20:12 (New International Version Bible)
They have more experience than you; they usually have more knowledge than you do and they have connections which you don’t.
Most of the times they tell you to do or not do something is because they are doing it for your own benefit. To help you not hurt you.
3. Respect your leaders
4. Respect your peers – people who are of the same age group as you are.
5. Respect other peoples’ belongings –
You might look at others and tend to envy what they have. The word envy means to desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable thing belonging to (someone else): To desire what belongs to others. This is what causes someone to steal or take what does not belong to them – what belongs to others.
What you do not know is: All that glitter is not gold; as the cliché says.
You don’t know how those persons had achieved what they have. How much hardships, sacrifices, sleepless nights, long hours of work, commitment, discipline, creativity, etc. they went through or demonstrated to get what they have. And even if they inherited it, someone else had to sacrifice the same.
You can achieve the same, too.
The question is: Are you willing to make the same sacrifices they made?
Be happy for others when they have achieved some major goal or milestone in their life.
The entire world is before you, as well – Filled with opportunities, prospects and good things for the person who would pay the price to receive them.
6. Respect God – common sense would tell us that God exists. I am not speaking about religion here. You only have to look at yourself, look at others, look around you, at nature, in the sky, in the sea…and you will see plain evidence that some intelligent being created all these things; including mankind (this means man and woman).
7. Respect others / strangers – you could never tell who they are or their influence and position in society. This includes: neighbours, people who you don’t know and meet at the bank, grocery, store, on the streets…etc.
I remember, not too long ago, I went to the grocery to purchase some items; as myself and wife approached the counter to pay for the goods, the cashier continued to read the newspapers which she was reading (during working hours) before we reached the counter – ignoring us at the counter, as if we didn’t exist.
After about twenty-five (25) seconds, she slowly and lazily put down the newspapers she was reading, and cashed for our goods…With no apologies or common courtesy as ‘Good Afternoon’…no smile, just a glaring demonstration of a ‘don’t care’ attitude – Pure disrespect for us and contempt for her job.
Unfortunately, this terrible customer-service behaviour among workers is not an isolated event. It happens daily. Not just to us, but others also. I am sure you can attest to that.
Remember, you could never tell who the people are, that are shopping at the grocery, store, gas-station, etc. You don’t know their position, connections, influence or affluence. If you give people great customer service they will want to reward you in return with something good. And if they are in a position to help you get a better job – They will. Also, the manager or supervisor at your company will take notice at the good customer service you are consistently providing, and will more than likely promote you or give you a pay increase.
Show respect for others.
8. Respect the Government of your land –
The Government of your country are elected to serve you and the nation. Honour them. Respect them. Don’t say bad things about them. Don’t slander them. Pray for them. They are doing things to help improve the standard of living for the citizens of the country they govern.
Here’s how you show respect for others.
- You show respect for others: In your words –
Words consist of:
- Actual words – the words you use in conversation. Do you use courteous, peaceful, encouraging, loving, constructive and kind words when you are speaking to others?
Show to others the same kind of courtesy you expect them to show to you. Speak to them the way you would want them to speak to you.
a. Tone of Voice – how soft, harsh, rough, gentle, etc. the tone of your voice is when speaking to others. Keep a careful check on your tone of voice when you are speaking with others.
b. Rate of speech – how fast or slow you speak. It has been said that if you mirror the rate of speech of the person you are speaking with, you tend to be more persuasive.
- You show respect for others: Through your attitudes
What kind of attitude do you display toward others – Good or bad?
Attitudes can be determined in 2 ways:
- In the way you behave – Your Behaviour. The things you do or don’t do.
- In your body language – The way you stand
or sit, your facial expressions, etc.
Do you display a don’t-care attitude with others, or do you show a caring behaviour when dealing with them?
Please remember, showing respect in the eight (8) areas I have outlined in this chapter would carry you forward. It would help you to achieve your goals in life, faster. It would leave a great legacy for you, your family name and your children to come. People would speak highly of you; with great regard for you. Respect would help you to find favour with others, as well, and also open doors for members of your family; they too, would benefit from the respect you show.
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