get rid of stressHow to Get Rid of Stress by Roger Ali Bocus

Before I teach you how to get rid of stress I first need to share with you what is the definition of stress. 

What is stress?

Stress is the absence of peace and the presence of Fear. (quote by Roger Ali Bocus inspired by the Holy Spirit)

There are different kinds of stress existing. But I will only cover the following 3 categories of stress. I will only share how to get rid of stress in these 3 areas, for now. 

The first type of stress most people experience is:


1.  Financial Stress


  • What is Financial Stress?

What do you have to do to be delivered from Financial Stress? You will find the answer to this question later down in this article.

I believe most of us have all faced financial stress in our life at some point or another.

An Example of how Financial Stress can be felt is when:

  • Your rent or mortgage is due and you cannot pay it. And had been slowly and agonizingly watching that due date approaching and you still did not have the money to make that payment, and didn’t know how you were going to get it, or where it was going to come from. This leads to stress. Financial Stress. Particularly since you have exhausted all the avenues you know of, and still came up empty-handed.

And now your phone begins to ring and ring, and you dread answering it because you know it is the bank or credit union calling for their monthly installment, and you did not have it again.

This is now the second month straight that you couldn’t pay your rent / mortgage. And the tension begins to rise, as you picture the worst happening to you.   

This is a vivid image of Financial Stress.


2.  Parental Stress


Stress I felt as a Parent with my first baby:

I remember when my daughter was born, I had many sleepless nights. She was up all night (despite all the advice and remedies we tried) and stayed up till about 4.00 a.m. the next morning. Then she would fall asleep.

Now, because my wife had to rest as much as possible to recover from a trying childbirth, I did the night shift after I returned home from work. I took care of my daughter until she fell asleep – Cleaning her, changing her, feeding her, singing for her…until she fell asleep.This did not happen until around 4.00 a.m. the next morning. 

And since I had to start getting ready for work at 4.30 a.m. This only gave me 30 minutes to catch some sleep.

To get more sleep, I would close my eyes in the taxi on the way to work. But that drive was only about 25 minutes.

After about 3 weeks of doing this. I eventually found myself falling asleep on the job, one day after lunch.

I just returned from lunch, and had resumed work. But after a few minutes at the desk, entering data into the computer, I felt my eyes closing and I could not stop it. Then, my head began to slowly go downward despite me fighting to keep it up.

When my forehead hit the computer keyboard which I was typing on, then I flew up. But by then, a co-worker who was passing by in the corridor, saw what had happened to me and reported me to my supervisor.

He told them they needed to talk to me because he saw me sleeping on the job.

The supervisor then called me into her office and gave me a long lecture. Warning me never to allow that to happen again.  (You can read more of that experience by clicking here).

It was a stressful time.

Loss of sleep over an extended period of time can be very stressful.

I am sure parents reading this could identify with me.


But parental stress is not just isolated to parents with babies, every stage in a child’s development has its own set of problems and stresses.

Right now, while I am typing this I am feeling very sleepy, but I am pressing through because I want to complete this article.

I was up all night with my 4 year old son (second child), who only went to sleep when it was 12.05 a.m. this morning. After he did, I still could not go to sleep. I had to set up to do work.

I work from home now.

Thanks to my first child.


3.  Health Stress


When David started to get sores in his mouth and on his privates, he checked the doctor. After careful examination he was told he had hepatitis and there was no known cure for it.

He could only control it by taking certain medicines which were expensive to buy.

David said he cannot understand how he got this disease because he never had sexual contact with anyone for years.

This was stressful and embarrassing for him, and he inwardly questioned:

  • “How did this happened to me?”
  • “Why did this happened to me?”
  • “What am I going to do since there was no cure for this disease?”
  • “Would my girlfriend Shirley still want to marry me when she discovers I have hepatitis?”

This fear materialized when he mustered up the courage to tell Shirley the doctor’s report.

When he broke the news to her, she broke up with him.

The above were just some of the questions and painful experiences which plagued David.

It was truly a stressful time for him.                                               


So how do you handle stress?


This is how I personally handle stress:


1.  I turn to God in prayer using the following scripture verses as my privileged-right as a child of God.


Two of my favorite verses of scriptures is found in Mark 11:24 to 25


24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.

King James Version (KJV)


Another promise I hold on to from the Word of God is found in:


1 John 5: 14, 15


14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.


He promises if we ask anything according to His will He will hear us, and give us the petitions we desire of HIm. But He will only give us the things which are promise to us from His Word. 


2.  I search the Bible for scriptural promises which relates to my situation and repeat them to myself and God..


1 John 5: 14, 15


14 And this is the confidence that we have in him, that, if we ask any thing according to his will, he heareth us:

15 And if we know that he hear us, whatsoever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of him.


3.  I thank God for the answer by faith.


Psalm 37: 4


Delight thyself also in the Lord: and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart.


What are the desire of your heart right now?

He has promised if you delight yourself in Him, He will give you the desire of your heart.

What does it mean to ‘Delight Yourself in the Lord’?

It means to be happy with the Lord.

It means to love the Lord in the midst of circumstances you may be facing.

It means to take your eyes off of the trying situations you are facing and focus on the Lord Jesus Christ.

I am sharing these things with you from experiences. Too many experiences to list here. 

There is so much more I would like to share on the subject ‘How to Get Rid of Stress’, but I would have to leave it for subsequent lessons.